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Someone somewhere told me a long time ago to write what I know. For some reason I can write my feelings out better than expressing them in person. I have been saved since I was 10 years old and have always tried to be a light for Christ. There have been times where I’ve not shown that light, but it is always been a priority. I remember growing up seeing relationships and marriages that ended in divorce thinking will I wind up like this? I idolized my aunt and my uncles’ marriage. The way he would put his arm around her at church even after all these years of marriage. When I turned 16 I began praying for my future spouse, and while I’m sure some of the characteristics and qualities from then have changed as I grew older two qualities always remained. 1.) Someone who loved Christ so much I had to grow closer to Christ in order to grow closer to him. 2.) Someone who loved me for me. Needless to say when I began dating my now current spouse back in 2013 he embodied both of those. Back in December of 2015 we finally married. I’m not going to lie and say that marriage is easy. It’s totally not easy. However, its worth it. We’ve only been married a few months and I have gotten such a deeper connection one that I never knew existed. Our marriage is not perfect and we both try yet fail daily, but we make it a priority to keep Christ at the center of it. So here I am starting a blog to write weekly (well try to) about my experiences being a newlywed and trying to be a Christian in todays crazy world. Let the adventures begin! 🙂
We don’t realize how our words/actions or lack there of really can break someone’s spirits. I bet we can think of several times where someone has done us wrong. Said something that just broke our heart to the point where we replay that in our minds until we finally fall asleep at night. Trust me I have been there just yesterday actually. Some unkind words were said about me. It didn’t make me angry as I figured it would, but it hurt me. I started letting it break my spirit word by word and piece by piece. I stayed up until 3 o’clock this morning knowing that I had to get up at 5 am for work. I told myself I just couldn’t let it go. The later it got that I kept thinking about how hurt I was, I started to realize that someone has been in this same boat because of me. Didn’t see that one coming did you? I didn’t either until God started talking to me. I realized that we have all caused someone to not be able to sleep at night or shed tears because of something that we have said or done. No we are not proud of it, however we are human. We make mistakes. Yet, we need to stop and realize that we need to be held accountable for our words and our actions. We need to realize that our words can hurt people. We all feel and take things differently. “Little do we know” how someone is going to take we have said or done. We need to show love to each other more instead of just remarks full of cattiness, envy ,etc. We need to show others the love of Jesus even those that might make us want to roll our eyes. Trust me when I say it is easier said than done, but we need to remember when we are hurting because of someone how someone else has felt because of us. We need to make sure that our words help heal and encourage instead of hurt and derailing someone. Which actions are your words proclaiming?
“But God Commendeth his love towards us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8 KJV
Today is Good Friday and while most people know this day more so because they are off work and get to have a three-day weekend. Most Christians know this day as a very special day. Today we remember that Christ died for us. The battle is over. God wins. It’s hard to understand that he died for us. I know I start thinking about all my flaws and everything I have done in my life, and I can’t contemplate why someone would go through the kind of death Jesus did for me. But then I realize that he didn’t just die for me; but also people who mock him and don’t know him. Today is the reminder that Sunday is coming. The joy in knowing that Jesus rose from the grave. Jesus died the most horrific death anyone could die. He did this for you and me. No matter how big our sin is; because of this Good Friday that sin is wiped away and made pure. The battle is over; IT IS FINISHED. CHRIST IS VICTORIOUS!
“What a friend we have in Jesus,
All our sins and griefs to bear!
What a privilege to carry
Everything to God in prayer!
Oh, what peace we often forfeit,
Oh, what needless pain we bear,
All because we do not carry
Everything to God in prayer!”
Upon some googling this song it was apparently wrote in 1855. I sing this song a lot at my church and even in the year 2017 it still commands hearts and souls. I have been praying and begging God to restore my joy that I seem to have lost lately. Don’t get me wrong, I am thankful for my life and everything that I have/am. I just have noticed lately I have had my head down and don’t smile as much as I once did. I begin reading and this song came to my mind. It tells us in the above verse that God will bear all our sins and griefs. Then it hit me that the more we love Christ he will become not only our greatest love but also our dearest friend. When we get in these little ruts or routines when we feel down and out always remember “What a friend we have in Jesus.” He will listen to every cry/tear/praise etc. When we let God in again we will begin to feel that joy and peace that we once had. Let him be your friend. LET GO & LET GOD!
I just started a new job almost two weeks ago at a nursing home working in Activities. I have mostly worked in the medical field since I graduated high school so it wasn’t anything out of the norm or so I thought. Don’t get me wrong I love my job. I get to bring joy and happiness to these people and it makes my heart happy when I am able to do that. I have gotten attached to certain ones also. The only downside is that I see how lonely and depressed some of these people can get when they either don’t have family or there family doesn’t come visit. Now coming from having a mom that has been off and on sickly for the past 13 years and been in nursing homes for rehab and hospitals, I get it. The family still has to work. It’s like with anything… Time still ticks on. There were nights I wasn’t able to visit due to working and honestly being tired.. So while I am at work and anytime I am just here visiting/singing with my church I strive to spend time with these people. Someone told me the other day, “You are so good with them!, Whats your secret?” I don’t really think it is a secret but I explained that I just go back to the Golden Rule. “Treat others how you would want to be treated.” There are days when I am moody or don’t feel good or even lonely and so when I am I want/need someone there to spend time with me. Its the same with this scenario. People, residents or non residents, just want to be made a priority to others. A challenge I have for anyone reading this is to take a look and think of someone that you don’t go visit or talk to and go! If you don’t have anyone there are plenty of hospitals/nursing homes etc that you can go and visit people. We all need to remember the Golden Rule and to be compassionate with everyone….CHOOSE LOVE NOT HATE!
Last Sunday marked six months since me and Patrick said I DO. It has definitely been an adventure. You hear all your life that the first year of marriage is hard. For me the word “hard” should really be replaced with the word different. I love my husband and am thankful that he loves me no matter what. He’s the most caring man I know. He’s my protector/rock. However, this time last year as I envisioned being married… I know its a cliche but I pictured the illusion of a white picket fence. The idea that marriage was just going to be perfect. I now realize that no one is perfect and neither is marriage, hence I use the word different. We have just now (like last week) finally got accustomed to living with each other. His routines and habits are very different than mine. He leaves the lid off the toothpaste, and I forget to make the bed a majority of the time. He likes to keep everything and I’m more of a “less is best” kind of gal. I like it freezing in the house and he likes it warm. We have so many differences but its those differences that make it fun. Marriage is what you make of it. Both you and your spouse have to give 100% . If I could give advice to any one getting married soon it would probably consist of three things.
1. Patience: I’m not a very patient person. I like that instant gratification of many things, but marriage is not one of those. Both you and your spouse must have patience with each other to make your marriage grow. If you do not have patience there will be a lot of unwanted and unnecessary frustration and arguments. Be patient with yourself also. Marriage is about learning each other and yourself… It takes time.
2. Me-Time: You must make time for yourself. I know when you get married you think you want to spend all of your time with your new spouse and while you should want to, yet you also have to have the me-time to recharge. My husband likes to hunt and fish and I like to shop and get my nails done. When he goes hunting/fishing and I go do my thing it gets us away from each other to focus on ourselves even if just for a few hours. That time away helps us to miss our spouse and can avoid from again unwanted frustration.
3. Support: Be your spouses’ biggest cheerleader. Support them. I know when I am excited about something I can’t wait to tell my husband. My face gets red and my voice gets even louder. When you show excitement/support for your spouse it shows that someone has their back, and really isn’t that one of the main roles of marriage? I know that no matter what I do that my husband will support me and hoop and holler for me always.
I have only been married six months and am by no means an expert at marriage, but for me these are a few ways that can help your marriage be the best it can be. It goes back to the golden rule. “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” Are you treating your spouse like you would want to be treated?